Are you familiar with the term “moral injury?”
It’s the trauma that can occur when we feel forced to choose between what we believe to be right and our own survival.
I assumed that I had healed my father wound because of the complete turn-around in my relationship with my dad, but then I realized that, even though I no longer felt anger towards him, and no longer got upset by his dysfunctional behavior, I was still deeply imprinted with some really gnarly programming around love and relationships.
Sometimes before we can fly and belt out our songs, we have to find deep stillness, a moment to come to rest, a space to really unburden ourselves, and then discover what can occupy the spaciousness within us when we are not filled up with trauma, stress, and anxiety.